Dating is hard for countless people, and if you attempt to remember all the terminology for being rejected, your head might spin even faster than before. The terms alone might be enough reason to make someone disinterested in dating. There is being ‘ghosted,’ ‘zombied,’ breadcrumbed,’ and if these don’t sound bad enough, there is a new one… It’s called being ‘benched’ and might be the worst of them all yet!
Being ‘Benched’ Is the Worst Yet
There is an entire world of terminology you must be fluent in if you’re even going to understand the dating scene. Perhaps the most popular has become ‘ghosted,’ which means the person becomes a ghost – you don’t talk to them or completely ignore them because you’re not interested. Now there’s an even worse way to treat people – having them sit one out, if you will – just like in baseball or another sport, they have to wait their turn to play.
Waiting for Something Better
If you’re into learning new ways to reject someone, which is bad in itself but happens every day, you might need to acquaint yourself with what this new term means. It happens when the person is interested in you and wants to spend time with you whenever suitable. However, a relationship is not in the books due to the anticipation of something better coming along. So that person is sitting, metaphorically, on a bench, waiting to see if you’ll find something better after all.
Having the Perfect Backup
Being ‘benched’ by someone leaves you sitting and waiting to see what happens. You’re not exactly the first choice, you might not even be in second place on their list, but they want to keep you around. After all, everything in life is better with a backup, and benching is leaving a person on the sidelines as a backup until someone who suits you better comes along.
Many argue that being ‘benched’ is even worse than ghosting because, at least with that way of rejection, there’s a clear end to everything. This new method has you being a sitting duck and leaves you hanging by a thread.